Blogging and dating are essentially the same thing.
There, I said it. Maybe it is clear to me because I am so new at this. Or maybe I am just plain wrong. I hope I am.
There you are, a young, vulnerable, lonely new blog, putting yourself out there. Cruisin’ the single’s scene. Lookin’ for a little action.
You send out your message; that you are available, that you might be interested in a relationship.
You put on some fancy artwork that makes you look hot. Not too hot, you don’t want to send the wrong message.
You put out a few posts, displaying your charms and wit.
You get your first hits. You are intrigued. You are touched.
Then you start hanging out in various blog topic pages, just sort of checking for potential suitors.
Someone catches your eye. They seem funny, friendly. Their graphics are impressive.
You click, and start to explore their point of view. Learn more about them.
Hey, you realize, I like what this person has to say. We have stuff in common. You make a few comments.
You hope they will notice you, but there are a lot of other people who like this person. And some of them are better commenters than you are.
You bring out some of your best commenting. Hey, you have been noticed.
Is it too early to ask this person over to your place to check out some of your stuff? But you really do like them. You pushed their like button twice.
What if they come over and don’t like you as much as you like them?
That would suck, because you are ready to follow this person anywhere.
Ooh, they do like your stuff. Your words are brilliant, your colors vibrant.
But did they really listen when you wrote? How many of your old posts did they really read?
You begin to have your doubts, but before you know it, you are both following each other. You were just sort of swept up in the emotions of the moment.
Weeks go by, and the things that you thought were so clever now begin to grate on your nerves.
Besides, you have started to become interested in other blogs. There has been a little harmless flirting with other sites.
You find yourself faking it now and then, pretending you were paying more attention than you really were.
Worst of all, what if you follow someone and they don’t follow you back.
Oh, no, blogging and dating have absolutely nothing in common. It was all in my head.
The funny part to me is that we could all end up ‘following’ everybody. It would be like Days Of Our Lives. We all end up together for at least one night.
******************
Okay, I didn’t learn this stuff today, because this is a very early post that I did way back when I was still figuring out what I was doing. There were so many hints in there about that… like where I said:’I am so new at this’, I just sort of wanted to see if anyone would figure that out.
Pouring My Art Out 
You should post this as a guide to new bloggers, hahahahaha!
This whole blog is a guide to new bloggers… and old bloggers… and anybody who reads it… and aliens…
I just wrote a serious post to guest post on another site but it is a bit like this post but not a metaphor for anything. I hope it’s a good post for people and not a let’s all lynch hasty post.
we would never do that
Sadly, your analogy is spot on. I can only be grateful that my dating life went better than my blogging life. I follow, read and comment on a lot of blogs that don’t give a fig and do not reciprocate. How pathetic am I?
It is just the reality of the situation.
I wish I could quit you!
well you can’t
You’re so brokeback.
like a camel with one too many straws
Yes, there’s that version all right.
yup
Lol that is so funny, what a great analogy blogging really is like dating 😄
Thanks, I do what I can.
I like that comparison, it fits perfectly with dating. I also like One Life To Live (don’t tell anyone) and enjoy seeing everyone date everyone – and come back from the dead! 🙂
My wife is a Young and Restless fan…
Oh my gaawd! (I am trying to get the american in you to listen, and gaawd! seems to be the way to go). Seriously though! These are some of the same things I have been thinking! Blogs are fickle things. You put yourself out there. And if nobody cares, then you are back to square one. Except, this time, you don’t want to write anymore. Cogito ergo sum, or so, I keep trying to tell myself.
I am… therefore I think… I think
ha ha ha! Good one!
thanks
Like a good minion should, I figured it out, Art, because you reposted this at least once before.
As for the post itself, it’s probably like online dating, since we’re able to send these “heyyyyy”s to multiple people a day, and we’re still not sure what they look like in real life.
well, everybody knows what I look like
Well, I don’t actually look like a black X.
In my mind you do.
Well, then, that X-looking minion in your secret lair is not who you think he is.
If you stand with your arms and legs placed just right, you can be an x
unfortunately, there is a very prominent body between my arms and legs, so I don’t make a good X
Structural support…
Oh Art, I don’t know if you’re my type or not. *bats eyelashes* I don’t have a blog yet so I’m just a teaser – not avaiable right now but we can still flirt. You can tell me how much you would like to read my blog if I had one – knowing full well you’ll likely never have to follow up. Just ships passing in the night (when you do a lot of your blogging). Keep up the good work you big guy, you.
Just so you know, I am everyone’s type…
Haha good stuff. Confession: I came here checking out anyone I could follow. My blog is a mere 46-day-old 😄 looks like you’ve caught my newbie eye!
Well we all started off at the same number, right?
Indeed 😄 love your humorous posts, so glad I stumbled upon your blog!
Ha… it says you commented, but I don’t see any words.
Ahh, technical letdown by WP I suppose. I said something like ‘yes indeed we do’ and mentioned how glad I was to discover your blog because it’s so funny and well written. Enjoyed your post on places with funny names!
Thank you so much.
Haha!
thanks
LOL! I tend to think that blogging can be like some type of friendship which can also be seen as a relationship. But in friendship there is not need to feel guilty for “following” others.
Generally I don’t expect everyone I follow to follow me back. I also don’t follow everyone who follows me.
But I will check you out if you have commented on my site more than once. as for “likes” – well there are those bloggers who just like everything everyone has ever written. They “like” two seconds after you have hit publish. Hardly enough time to actually read it. (unless it was like only 10 words)
As for getting someone you really admire to follow you, well then sometimes you may have to take a more bold approach.
I learned all that as I went along, but this post still makes me laugh for some reason. I think I wrote it when I had about ten people following me.
😉
whee!
And those people who ‘like’ a 1,000 word post 30 seconds after you put it up… don’t get me started… they are the tramps of wordpress… and just for the record, I am going to come visit your blog. I have been busy this week, which I will explain starting tomorrow, and I tend to be bad about visiting blogs, because I get excited, and I want to follow everybody, but if if we all really did follow everybody, we wouldn’t have time to do any new posts. It is all so confusing.
Yea, I also don’t have time to read everything……, my blog might not be the best on the block, but I’m getting there.
That is the scary part. If I say I am going to visit someone, and I am not really that interested in what they blog about, it is an awkward situation to say the least.
Well, if you don’t like mine i won’t be offended.
I appreciate that.