Blogging and dating are essentially the same thing.
There, I said it. Maybe it is clear to me because I am so new at this. Or maybe I am just plain wrong. I hope I am.
There you are, a young, vulnerable, lonely new blog, putting yourself out there. Cruisin’ the single’s scene. Lookin’ for a little action.
You send out your message; that you are available, that you might be interested in a relationship.
You put on some fancy artwork that makes you look hot. Not too hot, you don’t want to send the wrong message.
You put out a few posts, displaying your charms and wit.
You get your first hits. You are intrigued. You are touched.
Then you start hanging out in various blog topic pages, just sort of checking for potential suitors.
Someone catches your eye. They seem funny, friendly. Their graphics are impressive.
You click, and start to explore their point of view. Learn more about them.
Hey, you realize, I like what this person has to say. We have stuff in common. You make a few comments.
You hope they will notice you, but there are a lot of other people who like this person. And some of them are better commenters than you are.
You bring out some of your best commenting. Hey, you have been noticed.
Is it too early to ask this person over to your place to check out some of your stuff? But you really do like them. You pushed their like button twice.
What if they come over and don’t like you as much as you like them?
That would suck, because you are ready to follow this person anywhere.
Ooh, they do like your stuff. Your words are brilliant, your colors vibrant.
But did they really listen when you wrote? How many of your old posts did they really read?
You begin to have your doubts, but before you know it, you are both following each other. You were just sort of swept up in the emotions of the moment.
Weeks go by, and the things that you thought were so clever now begin to grate on your nerves.
Besides, you have started to become interested in other blogs. There has been a little harmless flirting with other sites.
You find yourself faking it now and then, pretending you were paying more attention than you really were.
Worst of all, what if you follow someone and they don’t follow you back.
Oh, no, blogging and dating have absolutely nothing in common. It was all in my head.
The funny part to me is that we could all end up ‘following’ everybody. It would be like Days Of Our Lives. We all end up together for at least one night.
Okay, I didn’t learn this stuff today, because this is a very early post that I did way back when I was still figuring out what I was doing. There were so many hints in there about that… like where I said:’I am so new at this’, I just sort of wanted to see if anyone would figure that out.