Things I learned today… well, not really, but we will get to that later…

Blogging and dating are essentially the same thing.

There, I said it. Maybe it is clear to me because I am so new at this. Or maybe I am just plain wrong. I hope I am.

There you are, a young, vulnerable, lonely new blog, putting yourself out there. Cruisin’ the single’s scene. Lookin’ for a little action.

You send out your message; that you are available, that you might be interested in a relationship.

You put on some fancy artwork that makes you look hot. Not too hot, you don’t want to send the wrong message.

You put out a few posts, displaying your charms and wit.

You get your first hits. You are intrigued. You are touched.

Then you start hanging out in various blog topic pages, just sort of checking for potential suitors.

Someone catches your eye. They seem funny, friendly. Their graphics are impressive.

You click, and start to explore their point of view. Learn more about them.

Hey, you realize, I like what this person has to say. We have stuff in common. You make a few comments.

You hope they will notice you, but there are a lot of other people who like this person. And some of them are better commenters than you are.

You bring out some of your best commenting. Hey, you have been noticed.

Is it too early to ask this person over to your place to check out some of your stuff? But you really do like them. You pushed their like button twice.

What if they come over and don’t like you as much as you like them?

That would suck, because you are ready to follow this person anywhere.

Ooh, they do like your stuff. Your words are brilliant, your colors vibrant.

But did they really listen when you wrote? How many of your old posts did they really read?

You begin to have your doubts, but before you know it, you are both following each other. You were just sort of swept up in the emotions of the moment.

Weeks go by, and the things that you thought were so clever now begin to grate on your nerves.

Besides, you have started to become interested in other blogs. There has been a little harmless flirting with other sites.

You find yourself faking it now and then, pretending you were paying more attention than you really were.

Worst of all, what if you follow someone and they don’t follow you back.

Oh, no, blogging and dating have absolutely nothing in common. It was all in my head.

The funny part to me is that we could all end up ‘following’ everybody. It would be like Days Of Our Lives. We all end up together for at least one night.


Okay, I didn’t learn this stuff today, because this is a very early post that I did way back when I was still figuring out what I was doing. There were so many hints in there about that… like where I said:’I am so new at this’, I just sort of wanted to see if anyone would figure that out.


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47 Responses to Things I learned today… well, not really, but we will get to that later…

  1. benzeknees says:

    You should post this as a guide to new bloggers, hahahahaha!

  2. hastywords says:

    I just wrote a serious post to guest post on another site but it is a bit like this post but not a metaphor for anything. I hope it’s a good post for people and not a let’s all lynch hasty post.

  3. Sadly, your analogy is spot on. I can only be grateful that my dating life went better than my blogging life. I follow, read and comment on a lot of blogs that don’t give a fig and do not reciprocate. How pathetic am I?

  4. Trent Lewin says:

    I wish I could quit you!

  5. Lol that is so funny, what a great analogy blogging really is like dating 😄

  6. I like that comparison, it fits perfectly with dating. I also like One Life To Live (don’t tell anyone) and enjoy seeing everyone date everyone – and come back from the dead! 🙂

  7. Oh my gaawd! (I am trying to get the american in you to listen, and gaawd! seems to be the way to go). Seriously though! These are some of the same things I have been thinking! Blogs are fickle things. You put yourself out there. And if nobody cares, then you are back to square one. Except, this time, you don’t want to write anymore. Cogito ergo sum, or so, I keep trying to tell myself.

  8. List of X says:

    Like a good minion should, I figured it out, Art, because you reposted this at least once before.
    As for the post itself, it’s probably like online dating, since we’re able to send these “heyyyyy”s to multiple people a day, and we’re still not sure what they look like in real life.

  9. Paul says:

    Oh Art, I don’t know if you’re my type or not. *bats eyelashes* I don’t have a blog yet so I’m just a teaser – not avaiable right now but we can still flirt. You can tell me how much you would like to read my blog if I had one – knowing full well you’ll likely never have to follow up. Just ships passing in the night (when you do a lot of your blogging). Keep up the good work you big guy, you.

  10. Haha good stuff. Confession: I came here checking out anyone I could follow. My blog is a mere 46-day-old 😄 looks like you’ve caught my newbie eye!

  11. serins says:

    LOL! I tend to think that blogging can be like some type of friendship which can also be seen as a relationship. But in friendship there is not need to feel guilty for “following” others.

    Generally I don’t expect everyone I follow to follow me back. I also don’t follow everyone who follows me.
    But I will check you out if you have commented on my site more than once. as for “likes” – well there are those bloggers who just like everything everyone has ever written. They “like” two seconds after you have hit publish. Hardly enough time to actually read it. (unless it was like only 10 words)
    As for getting someone you really admire to follow you, well then sometimes you may have to take a more bold approach.

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