Not really… I just thought that would be a really catchy title…
So some of you panicked when you read that last post… because you didn’t really read it very carefully, did you? That post was aimed, very specifically, at just a few people. These are people who I have a long history with. People that I follow. People that I have been following since the early days of this blog.
The sad truth is that I can’t follow all of you. If I did, I would have to stop doing blog posts. Because I try to read every post of every person I follow, and then comment on them. So I very rarely follow new people. Even though I desperately want to.
But it occurred to me that some of the people I follow no longer read my stuff. They hit the ‘like’ button now and then. But they never comment. I am sure they are in the same situation as me. They follow too many people to read everything. But I still manage to do it… of course I don’t have a job… but anyway…
Maybe I am just so conceited that I think I am something special, but I don’t want to be just another person they follow. I want them to remind me that they are there now and then. Let me put it this way… in the form of a joke:
A man turns to his girlfriend after sex and says, “That was great, Honey, I particularly like the part where you moved.”
You see where I am going with this? I don’t want to do all the work in this weird, word-oriented relationship. I just want them to move now and then… maybe even join in…
Yes, I am wracked by guilt over these two posts. Because it so glaringly points out the fact that so many of you are following me and I have not returned the favor. I wish I could, but I can’t. But if I do let a few of these people go, then I might just be able to make room and time to follow a few more people… and one of them might be you.
So none of this was aimed at those of you who come here that I am not yet following. I don’t care if you can’t stop by every day. I don’t care if you don’t always comment. I am still very glad to see you when you do show up.
Pouring My Art Out 
I may be late but I’m always here.
There is no time limit on friendship!!!
Everyone doesn’t have the same amount of time to devote to blogging and reading or working and living. There are things in the tangible world that have urgency and require attention. Sometimes people are just plain, old, exhausted.
I am both of those things… but I do need to remember that…
Frankly, if someone demands things of me or they’ll unfollow or take me off their blogroll, I say go ahead. This is supposed to be fun, not a job. When it’s not fun for you, time to stop, whether it’s posting, following any particular person, or social media in general.
I am just making a point… getting people to think about what we do here. That was really aimed at like two people, and I wasn’t really going to do it.
People don’t want to think.
I fool them into thinking.
They are not fooled.
Maybe not.
I had no idea my comments could mean so much. I really don’t like to comment around much but you are really special.
See… look how happy that comment made me? Thank you so much.
For instance, I still have 7 days of unopened mail, most of it marriage blog replies I am trying to catch up on while not be unresponsive to you and Kat. I totally understand. That is what scares me most about doing a blog: controlling the time and not losing site of the real life and people beyond this screen. The focused attention and intimacy provided by blogging is very seductive and addicting. For those who have few other options, it is a Godsend, but we aren’t all blogging with someone at a remote weather station, job location or physically confined somehow. I have been on here and the phone for 4 hours and done little else. Still behind on the mail, not dressed, not shaved, not ready for the real world. I have been thinking about using some type of scheduling like we talked about in the past. I think it would force more productivity into the process.
I should be doing other stuff… our sliding glass door shattered… a week ago…
The relationship guy talking here: If the door is at home don’t keep putting it off. You are building a potential problem with your wife if you do. It is important to her that her house be cared for and that you be the one to do it. She is looking to you to be a provider in a lot of areas that have nothing to do with finances. Even if you are not the primary bread-winner, she is looking for provision from you in many other areas. The door being fixed is one of them.
You really hit that nail on the head… ha…
Doh!
I know… but still…
Responding and following is always a muddling quandary.
When I first started reading blogs, I was puzzled by older ones that bluntly stated “if you don’t comment, I won’t return visit your blog” or “There is no like button – either comment(and I will come read your blog, or just enjoy reading and don’t expect me to sow up to read yours”. Some bloggers just never return visit or bother to respond to comments. They must be very good writers – and their posts must be worth the trouble – or you wander away after a bit
After a few years, it’s gotten more difficult/time consuming to keep up with/follow all the bloggers I really enjoy. Try to hit them all once a week at least. But it’s not easy to write and keep up with others.
Everyone gets busy and people do slow down the time on the internet at times, but most times they reappear after a while. Sometimes their lives change and they stop blogging. And sometimes people need a poke to say “Hey, you still there? Say something.”
Sometimes you have to walk away. Lots of fish in the sea. So many blogs that are worth a visit.
The important thing is to write and enjoy that – (and provide us with giggles)
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I guess it really is like having friends. You can only have so many. You meet new people that you like, but you can’t go see a movie with all of them.
Ok we get it your great,,and have more followers than us and your bragging about it (i’m not jealous of you at all really,,,lol).
I am… and I do… and I’m glad… I mean that you aren’t jealous… I guess I am glad about the other stuff too, but… you know what I mean…
yes.yes I know what you mean 😉
Uh oh… you may want to seek help immediately…
No hard feelings! I understand how difficult it is to really engage with every blog you follow. I am new to blogging and I follow dozens of people already. I find myself reading every single post and then 4 hours later I’m all “what the hell? what do you mean it’s time to get the kids from school?!”
This is a black hole… time does not exist… I have way too many followers to follow them all… all I can do is try to spot the ones that make me laugh the most in the comments.
WordPress IS a black hole. I actually did scientific study to prove this theory: http://armyofawesomepeople.com/2013/09/25/wordpress-is-a-giant-black-hole/
That was awesome… and scary…
Thanks. I’m a little more wary of WordPress myself.
I got kicked off for a spam joke, remember…
I kinda zoned out after reading you were unemployed. ha!
I don’t blame you. I would feel worse about it if I didn’t know how many people read my blog while they are at work.
Double ahaha!
double???
yep double
Okay… I will try harder next time.
Ahaha!
You like stirring up trouble.
well ya kinda like you
Oh… right.